A cheater is a cheater. And asserting your vow to “Kick the Bitches Ass” that touches your man is silly.
Number One: It is generally the man who initiates first contact.
Number Two: If the women does initiate first contact; YOUR man should say NO. If he does not:
You need to take a long look at yourself and ask why you are so messed up to actually stay with a fuck-head that would do that to you in the first place instead of taking it out on the women.
Well, after about a month or two (actually more, but oh well) of seeing random people, soilders and now articles coming across my news feed (FaceBook) of people saying “Get off your ass and work” it struck me. It struck me because during this time I see nothing that shows the reasoning behind this lack of work. And with this comes more individuals commenting, Amen Brotha, Hell Yeah, You Tell Em, Get Off Your Ass!!!! I’m not going to venture into why they are so adamant about this, I can only assume here that it is for the same reason I hear so often, “I’m tired of paying for you!”
Did you know that SSI, Welfare and FoodStamps get cut whenever the government decides it is time. My mother worked her entire life. She did work in bars but, She Worked. So she is due some help, her health WILL NOT allow her to work. She gets 500.00 a month in SSI, 42.00 Welfare and 150.00 a month in FoodStamps. The FoodStamps fluctuate, I do not even bother asking about the other, she talks about it changing every few months. So, we have 542.00 for her to pay rent and electricity (I won’t even include her meds). Rent on an apartment here can be found from 385.00 with no bedroom up to 1000.00. http://www.apartmentguide.com/apartments/Oklahoma/Oklahoma-City/ Houses your looking at 600.00 for the low end.
So, we get an individual on SSI moving into a room, they do not need a bedroom they live by themself! Now this is that person moving in: with a deposit (you will never get back) first and last months rent and deposits for electric and phone on top of that months payment. So just to move in your looking at roughly 1200.00. They stay in a shelter for 4 months to save up. They move in. They have lost all of their stuff because while in the shelter they could not afford to pay storage. After four months they have 2168.00 minus the 1200.00 and now have 968.00 to buy a couch with a bed, trash bags, toilet paper, dishes, bathroom neccessities such as towels, soap and shampoo. After finding a couch, lets say at a thrift store for 200.00 they now go and get what they can. And we will only budget in 200.00 for pots and pans and dishes and silverware. We will allow them 100.00 for the bathroom. They will not able to afford a vacuum so we will allow 150.00 for the trash bags, mop and broom and laundry soap etc….. So they now have roughly 318.00 to save.
First month rolls around and the 318.00 saved will go towards electricity and phone. The 542.00 is used for rent so that leaves them with 157.00. This buys trashbags, toilet paper etc… and leaves them with enough to go to the laundry mat. Next month rolls around and they pay the rent, the phone bill and part of the electric. Bypassing toilet paper trash bags etc… and laundry. Month after that they pay rent, lets go of the phone and pays on the electric and again not getting anything else. This is the month they start hitting up churches for trash bags toilet paper etc and try and find some help with getting some clean clothes. The build up food is running low and 150.00 in stamps buys you two weeks of food if you do it right so then they will have to start asking for food to supplement the last two weeks of the month. This will be their life until they die. And lets not forget that I did not add the meds into this at all. So don’t worry they cannot afford them and they need them to live so he/she will croak soon and that will be one more person YOU DON’T HAVE TO PAY FOR.
People on SSI take up a good chunk of the percentage of people you pay for http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/quickfacts/stat_snapshot/
Now we move to the homeless. My experiances with homeless shelters and knowledge of them are so much like that of this individual http://www.squidoo.com/why_homeless_people_avoid_shelters that I believe you would GREATLY benefit from reading her articles!!! I hope that you do!!!!
When looking for a job as a homeless person you have to have a Permanent Address. And of course being homeless you have no permanent address. This is just one of the main obstacles you face. Living in a shelter is filled with fears and anxiety on top of your own inner problems. This day to day life is not condusive to holding down a job but many do it. You have to have the proper clothing and smell right. Although some shelters will try to provide shampoo and soap, it is not always available. Neither are laundry facilities. Check in and check out times are not always condusive to work hours. When in a shelter and working you can stay there for months saving up to get the money required to move out. Once you do move out you are still living month to month, asking for help from churches, trying to get welfare and housing. (Housing by the way puts you on a waiting list for 2-4 years.) And all it takes is that One Devastating act that saps your money and your right back where you started. (here is where I ask you again to Please read the articles from the link above).
The Homeless make up a Huge Chunk of the people you have to pay for http://www.endhomelessness.org/content/article/detail/3668
Moving on to those that do have jobs. Lets work with minimum wages, 8 hours a day, 6 days a week. Take home pay every two weeks your looking at roughly 900.00 every two weeks after taxes. This is a mom with kids, eh, lets say two children. Now going back to the individual on SSI. A far cry from 542.00 a month, now we have 1800.00 a month, but now we have a two bedroom apartment or house with rent at mmm, 650.00 a month. Electric generally runs 200.00 a month in the good seasons, phone, food, school clothes, toys, birthdays, christmas, school supplies and household neccessities. Because this women does have a job she will not qualify for Welfare. Her first check will pay bills. The seconed check will pay for everything else. Food monthly will run anywhere from 300.00 to 400.00 so there goes a huge chunk out of that seconed check. That is if you feed your kids the way you are supposed to. Now lets add in medical. This person is running their life month to month, paycheck to paycheck. All it takes is one good hardship and we now have another statistic to add to the homeless pool. (This is where I say how about minimum wages rise with the cost of living!)
So the biggest bitch I have seen is that people are lazy and won’t get off their asses and get a job. Yes, there are people who are out there that are just plain lazy but when it comes down to it, there are many people out here who are doing Everything they possibly can to get themselves a job. Then once they have that job they suffer in silence to just keep what they can hold on too so they are not in that position again only to end up back there.
“Growing up I never knew that I could go to College, or go to the Army or do anything that would make my life better. I honestly had No Idea that there were options out there for me. I grew up going from shelter to car, to house to house to house and going hungry All The Time. Not knowing anything different I did this with my children. I never knew people who went to College or anyone who was in a different class than me and my family. As I got older it took awhile for me to SEE. It took awhile for me to understand that I had options. I have no Cinderella story. I didn’t go from hunger, poverty and abuses to make it big.
One day I was doing laundry and it hit me, maybe I can go to College? So I tried and the lady at the brick an morter I was trying to apply at told me I could not go to college without proof of filing taxes. I, like my mother, started working in bars so I never filed taxes. I didn’t know anything about filing taxes and never made enough for it to even matter come to find out. So I let it go. About 7 years later I was online and looking at schools I could maybe attend? I got so many calls when I put in my info and found one right away. I was so happy. I graduated with a BS in Business Management.
Growing up the way I did took a huge toll on my health. There were times when we lived with my grandmother that I was healthy but that was far and few between. Now I live in a tiny travel trailor on some property where I pay no bills. I have to come up with my own food etc….. I grew up going hungry so I deal with it…. So You DO NOT PAY FOR ME…. In 1997 I was diagnosed with Fybromyalgia, Severe Chronic Fatigue and Severe Allergic Tendicies; a few years later I was diagnosed with Osteoarthritis in the ankle that had screws in it. Because I could not afford health care when I was pregnant I know have major dental problems. (The babies took everything from my system and that now effects me). I have almost died twice in my life so that took a toll on my health as well. Would have been better if I could eat everyday, but I cannot so I deal with it. I cannot hold down a steady job. I get fired because the lack of food and bad health gives me anxiety and major sugar problems. I cannot afford to have a doctor so any help I could get from that to help me stay at a job is not there for me.
I Love taking pictures and am now trying to make a business for myself. With the love of photography and being pretty damn decent at it and with the degree in Business Management I’m going to make a strong go at it. Again, You Do Not Have Pay For Me!! YAY For You Woot Woot!!!!”
Now back to the rest of the US. How about this? How about it is put into place that no monies comes out of your check for Welfare or SSI…. How wonderful that would be that all these Leeches and Moochers just go off and Die and you never have to worry about it again. Man wouldn’t that Be Grand!!!!
The government doesn’t just hand out shit to poor people. You can get emergency stamps, but you have to wait for money, you don’t get housing, you have to be put on a list to wait 2-4 years if you get on it at all and you get no furniture, car etc….. Living in the system is not a carefree life where you get to lay back and laugh at the poor working stiff living pay check to pay check. There are people out there going hungry and in desperate need of medical help an just live with it cause they know you are out there telling them to get off their lazy ass and get a job. So they suffer in silence while they try everything they can to get a job against a system that shuts them down at every turn.
Let us not even talk about Felons. They don’t deserve work! They are criminals for crying out Loud! They deserve to die quietly in the background! And By God don’t you make me Pay for the Homeless Veterans Either Damnit!!!!
Most people talk about how “The Man” has drug them down, and in all reality, They Have. The system has been set up with so many barriers and hoops to jump thru to make you give up you end up struggling with your inner deamons until you slowly work your way up out of the hell you now find yourself in. To apply for SSI here in Oklahoma you are looking at 2 years at the minumum. You get denied no matter what! So after so many appeals you finally get approved, sign a waiver on back pay or take a HUGE cut on back pay then move on. The system is set up for people to give up. And if you are ever in the position to actually need help, you are going to fight like hell to get it! And in the mean time, you are going to Suffer. So while your bitching, some poor person in a shelter who legitimately cannot work is waiting for help that will only barely cover their needs. And someone who is at the welfare office is signing all kinds of forms, sitting in a chair with their children for 5 hours waiting to be seen to only be told they cannot get assistance or have been approved and will now have to wait another month. Or have been told you are approved so we will make you another appointment next month for you to bring in paperwork you didn’t know you needed and when that is all done the following month you will get your assistance.
There is nothing fun about sitting across from a stranger and being asked about your sex life, if there is a boyfriend you can move in with, or why isn’t the father helping or what family do you have to get money from each month. Asking for help from these systems is degrading and puts you further down. So the question here: why would you think someone would want to add to what is all ready a hell for them by going thru this all to just make you pay for them?
The barriers that stunt people from moving forward and help themselves get out of the bad situation they are in is broken and needs to be fixed. We need to take a hard look at what improvements need to be made. I’m not talking about giving people a free pass. I’m talking about switching our focus from overseas needs for now and concentrating on building our people back up! Implimenting programs that educate at these shelters. Getting companies together that will hire the homeless and felons and making them Widely Known to these shelters so these people know where they can go. Cities and banks can donate houses and buildings that can be used for actual homes for homeless families and Vets with programs that help them move into steady jobs and homes they can call their own. Stop giving these people a place to squate because this is not what they want or need. They want your information on the best next move. They want information on what jobs are available to them. They want information on possible schooling. Programs need to be put in place where Shelters, The Department of Human Services, Companies and Outreach Oranizations work Hand In Hand. This needs to be done so that the people who “Need to get off their asses and get a Job” can fully move on with their life and leave the Welfare Department and Shelters behind them.
If everyone I saw with these articles and signs would come together and call for changes in this system, there would be no need for you to feel like you have to further degrade these people and actually help them improve their lives. No one says it is your duty to help. But when you complain that you have to pay into welfare because of all the lazy people you lump the few lazy people into a minority of struggling people who NEED help. What angers me the most is lumping mothers into this category who have children of DEADBEAT dads! If the dads would own up to their responsibilities they wouldn’t need to go to welfare! There are many situations that lead up to someone needing assistance and it is not always them just being Lazy!
Many people donate to charities for Medical Science, Wild Animals, Forests and to feed children in other Countries. Course there are many more, point is, lets take a look at home and what can be done to make changes in the Homeless Shelters that actually help people make it up out of the streets and into a home. Instead of going overseas to adopt, how about you look to the US to adopt. Start looking at charities like Meals on Wheels to make your donations. Feed the Children and so on. When you go thru your homes and decide you want to drop off your old things at the goodwill or thrift store, how about you take that stuff Straight to A Shelter…. Thrift stores and Goodwill do not help the Homeless. They are there for people who cannot afford to go to JC Penny to Shop. Yes they need your donations, but a Homeless Shelter Needs It More! When you set up monies to go to your favorite charity, how bout you alternate those donations, one time to your charity, next time to a homeless shelter. Or to a program to help the Elderly?
What gets me is that when you have that devistating occurance in your life that makes you homeless, I will see you in my news feed bitching about how the Shelter situation is appualing and not fit for humans, how you cannot get help eating and that you cannot get hired because the Companies have set it up to make it impossible for you to go to work. Your credit score is now in the crapper and most companies when doing background checks won’t hire you if your credit score comes back looking as bad as it does, you cannot shower everyday, do not have clean clothes and no permanent address.
So, let us go back to you not having to pay into this. Wow, you have all this extra money! No, you do not. Well now that we have our hard working Americans who struggle to live month to month with extra money, lets make them put what they used to pay into our Deficit. Lets put this money into some Bailouts… You don’t really believe that your going to be able to live the American dream and have some extra money do you?
It’s nice to be able to latch on to an idea and run with it without checking what really goes into it. In my youth I did it a lot. As an adult I have to think first. I have to stop thinking with my emotions and go with the facts. The fact is people do not want to live on the streets or go without food and medical. The fact is the system is set up in such a way that it takes what seems a lifetime to break thru all the bullshit and pull themselves out of it. And in the meantime they have people over their shoulders telling them they are good for nothing. As a human, imagine hearing that more than once even in the best of situations.
Stop Bitching about the Moochers and go to your local Shelter and see what you can do to make the difference in someones life! You writing on a piece of paper claiming how proud you are of yourself that you work everyday while you pay for the lazy asses is not going to change the fact that so many of those “Lazy People” are struggling everyday to make it to where you are. Do a little research into what it takes for a homeless person in your area to find a job. Put yourself in their shoes even if just for a day and see what it takes to make it in this world today when your homeless or close to homeless.
It is not something they strive for or aspire to become. It is something that happens to them.
I live in this box looking at your pretty home…
I used to dream of owning your life…
But I’m comfortable now in this box all my own…
I know I hesitate at the door, I hate it with a passion…
I hate that look on your face when you look at the distance…
There is nothing about this that feels right…
As I look at your pretty home…
I hang on to everything we created and dreamed for…
To show you what you were…
I am here to show you what we will always be…
But I hang onto this box because it is all that you have left me…
By Biliegh Berrie
There is no legend here I could leave you..
There is no honour in this life for you to be proud…
There is..just me..the one who loves you….
There is this mess I love to call my life…
Your welcome to come see how it makes me, me…
Work your way thru the smoke and haze….
Walk thru the past that created this future…
By: Biliegh Berrie
We spend our time dreaming of the way we used to be..We spend our time dreaming of the way it could have been..We spend our time dreaming of the lives we think are better.
It is the time we want..It has always been the time we dream about..Can you give me that precious time needed to learn who you are..Can you give me the time to learn who I am..Is there enough time to learn who we are together.
There is an understanding to this that you have yet to learn..Is this an understanding unique to only me..Is this an understanding that you could only grow to know..
Those unspoken words are those I wish to tell you..Those unspoken words can be seen in my eyes if you would only look..I have seen them in yours, my hesitation comes from those looks..
The tears that you so gracefully walk away from..Are the tears of dreams I know will never be..Those are the tears of time we never had..Are tears of an understanding I strain for you to have..Those are the tears of words you would not tell me….
They are, my love, the tears of you gracefully walking away…..
By: Biliegh Berrie
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